ONE THING TO ASSURE YOUR KIDS OF WHETHER YOU'RE AWARE OR AREN'T OF THE DAY OF YOUR SEPARATION FROM THEM
The ultimate separation is death! It is usually painful, creating voids to fill [whether timely or untimely]! Or let me ask you, what else is strong enough to separate loving parents from their kids? Is it travelling abroad? Even at that, contact and communication can still be established.
However, death is a reason to prepare and anchor their hope on God.
We are not praying for that but even if that happens or if they'll never see you again, always give them an anchor and a reason to hope for survival and their eventual succeeding even when there's no level playing field.
Tell them that even if you won't be there, God will be. The Bible speaking true concerning Joseph says, "And the Lord was with Joseph" (Gen. 39:2).
That was in a foreign land! It happened in Egypt! That was abroad - supposedly where it snows heavily and their food is seriously leafy. That was where Joseph knew nobody. That was where he had no change of clothing. That was where he had no clinking coins in his pocket let alone dreamt of owning a purse. There was no brother, father or relative to turn to. Nothing fits his description but these verses below that show loneliness amidst ruins. His confession could have just been so.
"6 I am like a pelican of the wilderness: I am like an owl of the desert. 7 I watch, and am as a sparrow alone upon the house top."
Against this great odd and disaster, God's voice pierces through "as being with him." When all is lost, faded and cannot stay, may God's voice be heralded around you and your seeds. How sweet the moment is for those who have afore time cultivated the presence of God?
That assurance of "He is with me" is weightier and greater than having command of the treasures of darkness. It's to be cherished above having one's physical parents by one's side. Many there be who have parents alive but who don't command God's presence or favour. As such, they suffer. As such, they're limited only to the doors their earthly parents could open and the favour they could only enchant. In other matters of life that they can neither wield power, wealth nor connection, it is pencils up for them on those occasions!
However, Joseph's is a different case. Though still with a living father and relatives, he's nothing but an orphan in Egypt. He's not different from one in reality since he has none as an ally in Egypt. The only consolation he carries as a rod and staff comforting him is, "And the Lord was with Joseph." Often in the dark nights when he had to pray, the assurance that flooded his heart was, "I am with you."
This became a confidence that made him plough on without worry until he was noticed for his hard work. Where others had not gotten over their situations, he had been consoled because he had received a witness that his life is custodied in God's hands and it'll not be forfeited.
Tell your kids - when I am not there, God will be there for you. As a matter of fact, He'll be there before you arrive. He'll anticipate you before you can ever take one thought for yourself or think of a need in your life. God may be invisible but His works are visible and could be felt or seen when they're wrought. That's how they'll know God is with them. For instance, look at how Joseph knew God was with him.
Genesis 39:2-4, KJV
"2 And the LORD was with Joseph, and he was a prosperous man; and he was in the house of his master the Egyptian.
3 And his master saw that the LORD was with him, and that the LORD made all that he did to prosper in his hand.
4 And Joseph found grace in his sight, and he served him: and he made him overseer over his house, and all that he had he put into his hand."
Tell your kids, where there's no one to defend them; a mouth to speak for them or a chest to beat itself for their needs, there'll always be an equation and a string that will be pulled by God's unseen hands to make men put them in charge.
The virtue of hard work that they have learnt, coupled with the favour of God and His covenant of, "I'll never leave you nor forsake you" (Heb.13:5), will make them have uncontested favours before those who matter. As such, they'll seek them out because things live, prosper and flourish in their hands.
This is how step by step God ascended Joseph. God will always be with them. He'll be their parents. He'll be their sponsor. He'll be their surety and down-payment in every situation.
You probably will like to see this taken further. Consider Moses - Baby Moses being released into God's hands just at three months old.
That's a dangerous venture that no parent willingly takes unless forced. Yet, it speaks of faith and surrendering because they yielded Moses to God's hands after he had accomplished his time of custody with them. In essence, as the colt touches the Nile, they were saying, "God, take over. Remember your covenant with Abraham, Isaac, Jacob and take over this boy." Today, through Christ we enter and win the favour of God (Philip. 2:9-11). In Jesus' name, all is well!
You can always tell your kids that in case an incident happens that snatches you away from them or makes a forced separation - they can trust God to show up where they least expected.
You can assure them that if Moses was not swallowed up by the Nile or the beasts in it, then they also cannot be swallowed up. Rather, God will stir hearts, hasten steps and direct gazes to look in their direction.
For short, they'll find adoption. People that don't know them will adopt them. I like telling the story of my adoption at different junctures of my life, where people sponsored me and provided for my needs where I was like a sparrow on the housetop. That thing is real. God can raise fathers and mothers up for you even in those you have not known from Adam.
He did for Joseph in Egypt. God raised Potiphar for him. He just took interest in him, adopted him and trusted him beyond how anyone should have trusted a servant. The Bible says, "He only minds what he eats" (Gen. 39:6).
The same happened to Moses also. He lived under the cover of the man who had declared his death, spent his resources and basked in his privileges. Pharaoh's daughter and consequently this terrifying Pharaoh adopted him. How wise the foolishness of God that went to hide Moses where we believe he couldn't have been safe!
Let them see God's great salvation. That's why while alive you must point them to Christ. Let them see that God is their ultimate parent and it's out of what He gives you that you give to them.
This way, they won't have the unnecessary fear of death taking you away or of forced separation that besets some kids, adolescents and even certain adults. They are open to such fear because they don't know that God is the Master and the ultimate Theatre Director of their lives. Only if their parents had told them that not having a parent or a physical sponsor is not the end of the world - if one has God sincerely.
The script of your life is in God's hands. That includes your kids' and it only unfolds as God plays it. God knew what He was doing when He allowed Moses to be born at a time when male children were being cast into the Nile. Rather, what should cement his own death became the vehicle for his salvation. He met favour as he wept. He commanded the compassion of Pharaoh's daughter (who acknowledged he's one of the Hebrew's children) and though knowing this, still drew him out of the water - saving him (Exo.2:6).
Brethren, there's no reason why your kids should fear forced separation if their gazes have been directed to God - the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ who can keep everything that's committed to Him without losing it.
And though you're still with them in the body, don't cling to them. You can make for them a coat of many colours. You can take for them an ark made of bullrushes, water tightening it. All these will prove your care and show your great love for them. God expects you to do all these as a steward He has given them to.
However, don't withhold from releasing them into God's hands. Don't gnash at God's own plan to pay the bills that concern them nor restrict God to your reserve of wealth or provision only. He can do exceedingly beyond what you can ever think or imagine!
They are not yours. As a matter of fact, God said I should tell some parents to forebear who have claimed the lives of their kids as theirs - and haven't regarded God as to enquire what His will or plan is for them. God said, "that's part of not releasing them to the waters."
That shows your unbelief in God. You too can stand aloof like Miriam to prove God's faithfulness (Exo.2:4,7). Prove God if He won't live up to His name - faithful! You didn't respect nor believe I could take care of them. That's why you haven't yielded them up. That's why you haven't carefully let go of the rope or release the basket to swim in the direction I'll ordain and orchestrate to bring about my plans.
God is saying you're still struggling with Him and if you continue like this, you can actually be taken so that God can liberally chairs and decide where to paddle them.
People of God, there's no reason to fear. Commit your Moses to the waters and God will pick him up. Your Joseph might look like a seed lost in the earth but you'll see Him again. Like yam setts buried under the ebb or a wheat of corn that falls deep in the soil to bring forth plentifully - so shall your reward and receiving them back be but only if you can first yield them up.
This is God's Word and promise to those who'll take the risk, be 'frivolous', 'unconcerned' or unperturbed to commit to God.
I know a better paddle that stirs the course of our lives to where it should turn. He's God and He'll guide your wards into God's unwavering adopting hands!
M'Wings.
Nigeria.
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10/09/2025
