LIKE FATHER; LIKE SON

 When Calling Uses Your Dad & You!

ARMED FOR MINISTRATION!

ARMED FOR MINISTRATION 

I intend that this message will be for ministers - especially those who are currently in the service of God. 

Meanwhile, it'll benefit any good Christian that'll lend his ears to it as well. 

What does it mean to arm or equip?

To supply with armour or (later especially) weapons. For example, the king armed his knights with swords and shields.

- Also, to supply with the equipment, knowledge, authority or other tools needed for a particular task; to furnish with capability; to equip.

These two explanations did justice to it. The first is the root word from which the word "arm" originates and from which we have the word, "arms" meaning weapons.

When you are armed with something, you are equipped or piled up with something. Have you seen a beast of burden before? It is usually laid with many loads. Diverse loads! 

From that imagery, we can draw what it means to be armed, "it means to be equipped and diversely equipped". It'll mean "not being alone or ordinary" but being filled with something to the brim. In our case, that's the Holy Spirit. We've been commanded not to be filled with wine wherein is excess but the Spirit.

Ephesians 5:18, KJV

"And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit..."

When you're filled with the Spirit, you've broken through to a degree. Remember Stephen and Co who were chosen in Acts 6 because they were men filled with the Spirit. 

"Being filled with the Spirit" could be likened to a beast laden with burdens or could be likened to the pots that Jesus said His disciples should fill to the brim.

John 2:6-7, KJV

"6 And there were set there six water pots of stone, after the manner of the purifying of the Jews, containing two or three firkins apiece.  7 Jesus saith unto them, Fill the water pots with water. And they filled them up to the brim."

DID you see the part that says, "and they filled them up to the brim?"

Now, before those pots were filled, what was their status?

They were empty! They contained nothing! They held nothing! They had no treasure and could not be blessing to anyone!

However, they were soon armed to the neck (brim) when they were filled with water. It was that water that Jesus turned to wine. In this way, once empty pots became treasure holders. They passed from being ordinary to being important and useful.

Until you're armed, you lack usefulness and cannot give one out. Brethren, you must be filled, not with water but the Holy Spirit!

So, to arm means to "equip with something specific..." that will be to your advantage. 

Militarily, it means to be stockpiled with weapons or an arsenal of it. May you be armed even with the Armour of God!

However, let me turn light on the verse or story that inspires the topic. 

Let's go to John 5. I'll post it in KJV which describes it well. 

John 5:2-4, KJV

"2 Now there is at Jerusalem by the sheep market a pool, which is called in the Hebrew tongue Bethesda, having five porches.  5:3 In these lay a great multitude of impotent folk, of blind, halt, withered, waiting for the moving of the water".

4 For an angel went down at a certain season into the pool, and troubled the water: whosoever then first after the troubling of the water stepped in was made whole of whatsoever disease he had."

That's the story that inspires the teaching, ARMED WITH MINISTRATION. However, you may still not be able to make sense of it now. So, I'll expound it.

In this story, the Bible says a great multitude of people are waiting for the moving of the water. 

The moving of the water here is the MOVE OF GOD!

Now, this congregation of people have different needs. Some are blind, lame and paralyzed yet waiting for the moving of the water.

The image painted here describes our needy world and our different congregation today. It even reveals many people's status. Many are sick and constantly diseased if you don't know. 

So, they need help and what such persons are waiting for is the anointed man - the man that God's move is built around or will flow through. May you be that person.

If the anointing hits you in a special way, you can become like this pool of Bethesda. If you have a church, multitude will always visit to receive ministration through the man God uses. They don't and won't mind when you turn up. They'll wait! They'll hang around! They'll camp until God's vessel shows up. 

They'll camp round their own pool of Bethesda waiting for the move of God through you.

Now, the Bible says, "an angel goes down to stir or trouble the water at a certain season". 

That's where I'm going. 

When something is "stirred", what does it mean?

What does it mean to stir? That word will deliver the effectiveness of what I'm looking for. It's actually that word that inspires this teaching.

"To disturb the content of (a container) by passing an object through it."

That is, "to agitate".

It can also mean, "incite to action, arouse or instigate".

It can also mean, "trouble or disturb". The opposite of a stirred or troubled water is "still waters" as we have in Psalms 23.

The Bible says, "for an angel went down at a certain season into the pool, and troubled the water: whosoever then first after the troubling of the water stepped in was made whole of whatsoever disease he had". 

If a sibling reports another one to his mum of troubling him, don't you think it was a repeated act of troubling before the report? Could it have happened once? No! That other person would have troubled or upset the other repeatedly for him to have used the words "troubling me".

Now, as the angel stirred or troubled the water, something invisible was happening. That ordinary water received the healing virtue. It immediately and by process of time as the stirring continues got armed with energy or the healing flow. 

Now, if you rub your palms against each other, something happens. You'll feel warmth. Same happens. For the water in this pool to have been described as a "moving water", it must have been stirred repeatedly else it wouldn't be visible to have moved or billowed. It was the stirring that armed the pool with power.

That's where the title came from - Armed With Ministration.

Until this pool was stirred by that arousing, instigating and trouble causing angel, that water never received life or empowerment. It never received the deposit that could heal of whatsoever disease. 

But, it had to be stirred long enough for a duration until it became warm and was armed with power. It could then conduct electricity and spark or shock any that contacts it.

This same process is what ministers will pass through to get ready for ministration. 

You can stir yourself in the Holy Ghost until you're energized. You can edify or build yourself up on your most holy faith by speaking in tongues for long as a minister. That way, you'll edify yourself before going out to preach or edify your congregation. 

Jude 1:20, KJV

"But ye, beloved, building up yourselves on your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Ghost".

Observe that pool! Before it ministers or give ministration to anyone, it receives from God and the visiting angel first of all. It had to be stirred and made ready for the session and ministration it'll give. 

You also cannot pour from an empty cup. You must be armed and equipped with what you'll later give. You must be filled up or energized with power first of all. 

That's when people can stumble on you and be made whole of whatsoever disease or problem they have.

This pool so much becomes energized that irrespective of the need or disease, once you touch its water, it is healing!

Healing spree! That's how capable it is. 

When you also have taken time out to study God's Word, pray often and daily, fast and maintain constant devotional habit in God's presence (whether on the run or at your stop over), you'll just begin to see people stumble upon you share testimonies. They'll say, "now, your pool is armed with energy". Something is different with you now.

Anyone who's armed with ministration (to give) to people will always draw people around himself or herself like people camped round that pool. 

People will know answers can be passed through you. 

Even Jesus when He was touched, virtue went out of Him to heal the woman with the issue of blood. That tells you things can be stored with you.

You can carry the anointing that can manifest and distribute or apportion itself as virtue meant for a specific purpose to people at a particular time. 

Be armed to the neck! Receive the necessary equipping needed for your congregation. Stretch your hands forward like a man who wants to receive a present. I picked that image in the spirit. Receive now! Now, embrace it!

Let your pots be filled to the brim and your pool be armed by God's baptism (infilling) and consequent spiritual activities you'll do. Amen!

© Olusola ADEJUMO,

M'Wings.

CERTIFIED TO BE GOOD!

Certified To Be Good!

Testimony is very key. A witness of one or two more people can affirm a thing and do you good. That's what we also do call attestation. 

When you need and where you'll need it, may there arise for you certain people who can freely attest to who you are.

May someone say, "and He is very good!" That sound can settle it all.

Are you there feeling useless? Have people called you, "no good" and have you come to see yourself in that same light?

What is the Lord God saying concerning you this morning?

Let's hear Him speak to us and surely I know it'll be an answer of peace.

Genesis1:31, KJV

"And God saw every thing that he had made, and, behold, it was very good..."

It says what? "And God saw everything that he had made..."

Now, what does "everything that he had made" attract? 

That would be, "very good!"

God saw everything that He had made and He came to one conclusion after inspecting it all. 

They are good!

Interest you to know that you're one of the things God said was "very good!"

When He looked at you at creation, the comment this good teacher passed was, "very good." When He beholds you even now, what He sees and then says about you hasn't changed. It is still, "very good!"

So, what do you think has fallen, gone wrong, being damaged or refashioned in you that's standing in the way of, God's "very good?"

Why do you feel unrelentlessly inferior? Why do you keep having this feeling of "incompleteness", "lack" and "missing parts."

Why are you not whole? Why do you feel robbed, stolen from and cheated by the Almighty? Why do you think God is unfair or unjust to you?

But hear God's Word, it says, "and it was very good!"

Not only a thing of the past. I'm hearing God's voice now. He hasn't changed His thoughts concerning you. The remark He once wrote for you is still what He's writing now. God is still saying, you're "very good."

Don't forget that our thoughts are not God's thoughts and our ways are not God's ways. If you were called to assess yourself now, you'll probably fail yourself and call or score yourself, "not good!"

However, God who's plentiful in mercy, loving and forgiving wants you to see differently. God wants you to see yourself like He sees you. He doesn't want you to see your deficiencies. He doesn't want you to see those habits you're struggling to be free from. They are real but something is more real. It's that God's mouth says, "you're good". He looks at you and He has nothing else to say than, "and you're very good!"

What a good teacher we have in God! A teacher that scores his students "very good!" The Bible speaking in Isaiah 53:1 says, "who has believed our report...?"

The only thing next for you to do now is to believe this score and comment God has written on your report card. 

It reads, "and you're very good."

Has your aunt, parents, spouse, colleague, boss told you contrarily? So much more that you're beginning to see yourself as "no good" or "not good?" Will you believe God's report over theirs? God is their Creator and yours as well. The One who created all of you and has upper hand over all of them is saying now, "but you're very good."

Don't believe another thing. Don't believe less than God's Word!

What He has said over you and concerning you after assessment, inspection and observation of this product of His hands (which you are) is that, "and you're very good!"

Take this and run with it. God is greater and better than anyone who has said anything else over you. Discard what they've said and take that of the lover of your soul who's saying, "I can only recommend that you're good." Listen, from the office of the Quality Control

You're very good!

Believe in what God says. Believe in what we have written in the Bible concerning you. God left such there for such a time as this when doubts may attack you about your value and importance. 

That voice is only echoing one thing. After traversing the whole earth, checking North and South, it could only come back to say, "and you're very good".

Do you think God will put out there a deficient being. Coupled with the fact that you're born again, you can only be "very good" in God's sight!

Why? How?

Your sins are forgiven! They've been blotted out. You're new again like that of creation when God beheld all creation and endorsed it with, "and it is very good."

Psalms 32:2, KJV

"Blessed is the man unto whom the LORD imputeth not iniquity, and in whose spirit there is no guile."

You're blessed because you've found forgiveness.

Therefore, believe in God's original copy and statement that says, "I look and He/She is good." You are good! You are not deficient! You are not distasteful! You are not awkward!

They said concerning David in I Samuel  16:18, "behold, I have seen a son of Jesse the Bethlehemite, that is cunning in playing, and a mighty valiant man, and a man of war, and prudent in matters, and a comely person, and the LORD is with him."

If you'll read other versions, you'll see the usage of the word, "good" in place of "cunning." It's like saying now, "that's good in playing..."

When they went to find who could stand in Saul's presence, they found no other person except for the "good, skillful, cunning" David!

They went to and fro and at day's end, they found the "good one!" One who is up to! One who can deliver! One who can always do it and get it done! 

When this fellow looked upon David, he could only describe him as "good, skillful or cunning!"

The same sword is what God is holding over you. 

You are good! You are very good!

You are no less! You are not different!

© Olusola ADEJUMO,

M'Wings.

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT MEETING FULL TIME MINISTERS/ MISSIONARIES NEEDS

WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS ABOUT MEETING FULL TIME MINISTERS/ MISSIONARIES NEEDS

Let me start by saying our provision is on God but this will be abstract except I explain what I mean.

Jesus sent out certain disciples. He sent the 12 and later on sent the 70 for instance. Then, He gave them certain instructions, "carry neither purse, nor scrip, nor shoes..." (Luke 10:4, KJV). When Jesus said this, was He trying to set up the disciples and suffer them 'cause He told them not to travel with any provision or means by which they could provide for themselves?

He literally emptied them. He stripped them naked and handed them over to their obedience and faith in God. 

What principle can we glean from here?

Reliance on God! Can God be relied on? Yes! As you walk with Him, you'll prove this to be true through small matters first of all and be able to trust God on bigger matters. 

Then comes their way of escape. Jesus said, "5 and into whatsoever house ye enter, first say, Peace be to this house. 6 And if the son of peace be there, your peace shall rest upon it: if not, it shall turn to you again. 7 And in the same house remain, eating and drinking such things as they give: for the labourer is worthy of his hire. Go not from house to house. 8 And into whatsoever city ye enter, and they receive you, eat such things as are set before you" (Lk.10:5-8). 

Jesus said once you enter a house, greet them. Did you see Jesus teaching them social etiquette and how important it is to present oneself as a fellow that'll not be deprived of gratitude or one that is anti-social. Now, Jesus further talks about the "son of peace". Who's this son of peace if not someone who will just open to them though he or she might never have met them before? He'll just believe in them and make his house available for these strangers. That's the fellow who'll say, "you can lodge here". As the disciples greet and as he or she responds, they can strike a conversation and he'll come into agreement to house them. He'll not only come into agreement, he might place before them food to refresh them. 

Many people have proven this so! I have proven it so in foreign lands I went to where people received me and fed me yet we didn't know each other before. 

Check through the Bible, people received strangers. Abraham did. Even Lot did and we ourselves have been encouraged not to stop the entertaining of strangers lest we miss angels (and our blessings to be delivered by them) - emphasis mine!

Hebrews 13:2, KJV

"Be not forgetful to entertain strangers: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares."

You see, people of old didn't count it a great cost to be open to strangers. Nowadays, we might need the Holy Spirit's impression on who to agree with considering there are many wolves in sheep's clothing.

If you take a vow not to entertain strangers, then you'll miss missionaries and many that are God sent. That way, you'll be contributing to the suffering of those God called and sent somewhere to start something for Him who He promised their needs would be met by the indigenes there. 

Jesus then says, "in that same house remain, eating and drinking such things as they give...don't go from house to house"

Note this, "such things as they give you..." 

It means the disciples are not to decide what would be given to them. Whatever they place before them as food is what Jesus says they should make do with. 

Did you see the humbleness of ministry? If you're picky or you cannot condescend, you cannot even go on missions. That's what we're saying. You'll need contentment to go with whatever offer made you. Someone who's proud, haughty or has his eyes on bigger options cannot take that. Someone who's looking for Chicken Republic or McDonald in every place cannot be sent somewhere to pioneer a work for kingdom sake. He won't be able to make do with what is available there. 

If they say, there's no saloon or spar here, she might burst into tears and begin to accuse her husband of bringing her somewhere to suffer her. She'll be like the Israelites who accused Moses of bringing them into the wilderness to kill them instead of letting them alone in Egypt where they have every good thing (as they supposed). Exodus 14:11-12, 16:3, Num. 14:12

Again, it means the disciples can't come with, "I'm sorry, I don't eat shawa fish. I only eat titus". No! Even if it is pork that is served, that's what they'll eat. They have no option or choice in this matter. 

If you get where there's no toilet, you'll have to humble yourself to poo in the wild. You'll have to dig the earth and do it there. Facing such peculiarity shouldn't lead you to beginning to think of home, your father's house or one privilege you left behind. 

It's for the sake of Christ and the gospel and there's a high reward attached to that. You have to consider yourself suffering for Christ and His kingdom sake. 

What principle can we draw from there? Ministers who have been called and sent by God must be ready to live simply and adapt or adjust themselves to whatsoever living conditions that comes their way. Those who are exotic cannot do ministry, especially the ministry of moving wheels or missions. If you're used to city life and the many infrastructures and goodies it offers, you may have to condescend to adapt to a rural life which is still, slow, quieter and rustic. If you're very far from a gas station, you may need to learn how to use firewood (fuel) for cooking. That may be suffering but it's for Christ. There should be nothing too big to yield for Christ's sake. 

Therefore, you cannot have a wife or daughter or son who's saying, "daddy, I cannot take this or that".

If that's still what God is offering or providing, teach them to receive it with thanksgiving. It'll nourish their bodies and bless them. 

This is unlike what we see nowadays. Ministers are preaching, "I cannot be poor!" They are saying, "I'm not an after thought!" They are shouting, "I eat the best!". 

Not always bro. Ask any founder or those God called and sent somewhere if there was no time they faced hunger, lack or appropriateness or moderation of provision. 

It is this unbalanced or error filled teaching for which many ministers are being probed for financial misappropriation currently. That's why there are more robbers speaking into the mic and opening the Bible than any time now. Why? How? They are men of wild appetite who cannot be satisfied with what comes their way in its measured state. So, they're now fleecing the sheep to survive and preaching the 'gospel of prosperity.'

Jesus knew you only needed what to eat. You don't need luxury! If we have food and clothing (basic necessities), by these, we shall be content. 

Who told you to preach or minister, you have to wear a suit always? Who told you, you cannot be content with a shirt and trousers or buba and sokoto?

It's this standard that's false that makes people chase suit in ministry as if it were anointing. 

Jesus didn't say, once you get there, use your gifts to bargain for things or sell your supernatural abilities. 

Say "you'll heal their long sick daughter and for that, they'll have to give you 30 pieces of silver".

Jesus rather says, "freely have you received and freely you should give" (Matt.10:8). 

But despite this, Jesus recognizes they need food for their body and strength to do the mission. So, He says, "...whatsoever they set before you, eat because the labourers deserve their wages."

What's their wages? Food given them to eat! Food for their bodies!

Jesus teaches us CONTENTMENT as ministers of the gospel. It's whatever they set before them. Meaning the disciples should learn to manage. 

Read through the NT, the disciples didn't have any special properties they hold dear. Even one like Barnabas, the son of encouragement sold his own landed property in order to support the ministry (Acts 4:36-37). They never held anything dear. They never anchored their lives to properties. They were ready to let go or release it. Landed properties they owned didn't dictate the location they are tied to. They rather travelled round bearing the gospel. They never came to a halt and indulged in security in a place. 

This is the life we should preach. Not the life that doesn't want to lay anything down. Not the life that wants to acquire everything for itself. Ministers were so content that someone like Paul even had to engage in tent making to support himself and not be a burden to anyone. Acts 18:3, I Cor. 4:12

That Jesus told them to only stay in the house where they're accepted and provided for means He was teaching them contentment. 

It's only one who's not content who'll seek to change dwelling even when he is being provided for where he is. 

Ministers, just hearken to the Bible. God will provide for you. Even if your food is not elaborate, you'll be fed. 

Olusola ADEJUMO,

M'Wings. 

19/07/25

THE TRUTH ABOUT STOLEN WATERS: SETTING YOUR MARRIAGE ABLAZE

THE TRUTH ABOUT STOLEN WATERS 

Rarity of a thing can increase its value. Do you know that?

Why is it that before a young man or woman marries, when he/she thinks about sex, his conclusion is, "oh, I'll have much of that!" He even exaggerates how much sex he'll have. He or she thirsts and anticipates sex.

If he/she is a Christian holding to chastity, he or she will anticipate in high hopes when that time will come and he could let loose the reins.

It happened to everyone who's now married. There was a time you wondered if it'll ever be your turn. A time when you thought you'll die like this and not unburden. But now, you are married. All the things you anticipated to see or taste, you've seen and tasted over and over. It has gotten to its peak. 

Previously, nudity of the opposite sex used to be a wonder and a miracle to you. However, it has been fully disclosed and disrobed before you. It's no longer a mystery. Previously, the thought of envisaging nakedness would wake you up and you would immediately need to cut it quit so it doesn't become lust or sin.

But now, you probably have someone by your side (in wife or husband) who sleeps naked. 

So, what used to delight you at anticipation because you never had it , though it never loses its spell doesn't hold you spell bound like before. That's why the Bible says:

Proverbs 9:17, KJV

"Stolen waters are sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant".

Do you know what that verse means?

It's referring to days when some of us secretly went behind to taste the 'forbidden fruit' because to them, "I couldn't hold it any longer".

They couldn't wait. That anticipated 'joy' they have so much longed and waited for became so overwhelming that it overwhelmed them in the present. So, they went behind, tasted it and called it DELIGHTFUL or SWEET, because it was a fruit they only tasted once in a while.

But now, you've over-flogged sex. You've had it over and over. Except the way of nature comes upon you, sex doesn't look attractive to you anyhow if you're married. But when it was scarce or when you haven't had any, it seemed the only genuine food on planet earth. 

Now, you don't engage in the anticipation of the singles or occupy yourself with their many thoughts on how they'll do it. As for you, you're not a first timer. It can gyrate a first timer or someone who rarely enjoys that privilege but not you again.

It will not always hold you like it used to hold you or like it's holding those who are anticipating it. 

Why bread eaten in secret is sweet is because it's not bread so OFTEN eaten!

Doing it for the first time has an experience and a delight to it. That's why ladies rarely can forget who de-flowers them.

Now, I have a counsel for married women or even men. Ensure you spice yourself up and not available always. 

Though married, practice selected withdrawals that can't endanger you or your spouse. Let me explain my intention. Stolen bread is sweet because that fellow couldn't always have enough of that bread. So, the little he was able to steal, he felt it to the marrow and cherished its deliciousness as he could only have little of it. It was not over-flogged nor was he overfed with it. It was regulated bread!

It's good for a woman to be accessible in bed (to sleep naked). However, don't always be like an open suitcase or book at home. A closed suitcase gives the onlooker room for his imagination to roam wild towards finding what contents are in the suitcase. 

Roaming, delightfulness and anticipation (of what to be delivered is POUND to death) when you're always naked at home. Your man sees all at a glance and his imagination is satisfied while his desire fizzles out so soon.

You should be able to sustain him, carry him on and hold him in your courts for long. 

So, at times, you might only need to wear some revealing clothes. You're dressed but you're offering a mix of sight and puzzle to him - a combination of darkness and light. He could see shadows of things underneath the clothes but he couldn't see it well or see all. 

So, the desire to explore will be aroused.

He'll be troubled at that sight and want to see it more clearly. From there, lead him down or on to the chamber. 

That's why there's night wear. Several nighties there be that you can use to trouble, shoot at sight and arouse your man. 

You're married and you see each other daily. You must employ means to return the mystery of "stolen waters are sweet and bread eaten in secret is pleasant" to your couple life. 

Another way to do this is to take occasional breaks from each other. Life has this naturally beaten into it. 

At times, your spouse may need to visit their parents. Let her/him go. It may be to attend a meeting, seminar or conference far from home. Let it. 

There should be time to miss each other so you can know each other's value and appreciate each other better or often.

When the woman you haven't seen for a week returns, if you're not an imbecile of a man, your attitude should be different to her arrival. 

How can your man check out of the country or town, make a return without planning a special night moment to celebrate it? Even, you can have a special welcome meal & make the house look different for their arrival. Those little acts will pass your subtle messages to them and get them ready for the D-act!

So, occasional withdrawal or separation in marriage can strengthen it rather than overburdening each of the pairs in it. 

I hate it when I'm overcrowded. My wife knows. I hate it when I don't have my time to spend alone at home. That I'm married doesn't mean I have to be talking, holding or be at my wife's presence every time. I need my time alone. That's part of the time I spend with God, use to meditate, do my 'silly' things and laugh at myself.

My wife knows that when I'm way overcrowded, once I enter the bathroom or rest room, I won't come out on time. Why? I want to be alone. I need time alone. Time alone even without spending it with God refreshes you. It helps you to catch your breath, reflect over life or your day. 

Many are the sorrows of women who keep raising children. They'll rarely have time alone which can result in untidiness, scattering, depression and not enjoying life.

Me, I do encourage my wife to travel. Take Akosile and travel. Go and enjoy yourself at your uncle's place or family house. Is there a function somewhere, go?

Those times they are not around will give me TIME ALONE at HOME ALONE! I like it when I'm alone. You too will except you haven't found a purpose for solitude in your life. To be present always in a relationship could lead to certain IRRITATION!

I tell you, you can overstep your boundaries and that's because you've overdosed your spouse with your presence. So, they can't breathe!

They're crying I CAN'T BREATHE by seeking to stay in a corner all alone but because you couldn't interpret it correctly, you'll keep badgering them until they retort or bark you off. At that point, you can be offended. If a lady, she could close up like a clamp. So guys, do this with discernment.

May God help our marriages not to lose the dimension of cherishing and sparkling we once had in courtship. You know how you were jolloffed whenever you set your eyes on your wife/husband (then your fiance or fiancee in courtship). 

It was as if she shouldn't go back to her parents again. It was as if you should start living together onward from that moment. Everything he or she did transported you. You wondered at everything and it won you over. Let me ask, "what has changed now?"

You've been over fed and overdosed with her/his presence. So, you're no longer moved. That's why you no longer engage in playful touches in the house. That's why you're not grabbing each other anyhow again. That's why you're no longer doing space exploration again. 

You've been spoon-fed until you became fed up! You've eaten too much and now you're vomiting his/her presence.

That's the problem and that's why it's the bird you don't have at hand that you're now fantastically thinking after or desiring. 

You think your spouse has now lost all power or spell to intrigue and delight. You think after a child or two, she has grown old to play the former tricks. No! Never! You think now that he has a pot belly which was your handiwork, he has now lost his once strong potency and magical wand. 

What changed or got damaged were your mindsets.

That's why both of you are beginning to think it's the grass outside that's now green. Look, the one inside is still lush and ready for play as well. See that and cultivate each other. 

In the midst of the right measures, things don't fail. It always plays right out well. 

© Olusola ADEJUMO,

M'Wings.